Dating is a test of metaphysical mettle
I could tell SO many stories. Funny, sad, frustrating, hurtful, laughable.
Because my blog is mostly about metaphysics and living a spiritual/attuned life, I wanted to share some highlights that I’ve experienced during my full-bore fore into internet dating the past couple months.
Lesson one: A spiritual basic. Remember to breathe.
You will get excited, you will get pissed, and you will be confused. The Dudes will say one thing and do another. Breathe. Feel every fascinating emotion. Then laugh. Then punch something if you must. Then let it go. And go back for another.
When your intuition tells you to ask a guy how current his pictures are, do it! Use lightness and humor. This is not about pissing someone off or calling them on the oddness of their profile. Just go ahead and ask. If your gut tells you to, do it! The Universe will weed them out. Ask about his pictures and explain that in two of them he has brown hair and in four of them he has grey hair. Ask about the discrepancy. Tell him you like grey hair (I do). Do it with humor! But point out the discrepancy & ask about it! Try to make him laugh so he sees his profile from the viewer’s perspective. The Universe will weed him out. If you’re meant to meet each other, he’ll respond favorably and will laugh at himself. Otherwise, the Universe will save you time & gas and he will never email you again.
Be clear. If somebody asks you what you “want” tell the truth. Say it in the most clear & concise manner you can. If you answer the question from the truth of your mind/heart and they hear something different, that is NOT your issue. The Universe will weed them out.
On the other hand, if there is something deep inside you that you want and you do not communicate it, don’t be surprised if the dude(s) don’t pickup on it. Everybody has gut feelings and intuition. Sometimes they confuse that with “life experience” and “cellular memory” and “pain body” springing forth along with their damn testosterone, but still…if you’re not being honest with yourself, the dudes will be able to tell.
When you get close to 50 years old (my experience only- for heaven’s sake I’m not claiming this happens to everyone) if you date someone in your own age range and they like you, be prepared to be asked serious questions and asked to pony up to some kind of commitment somewhere between the 2nd and the 3rd date. If you’re not ready to make a decision that quick, but the guy is impatient and demands an answer, the Universe is weeding them out. Admittedly that one hurts. It’s hurt me twice now. As painful and shocking as it feels at the time, they are being weeded out.
You, the spiritual metaphysical person who listens to your soul’s inner guidance and who pays attentions to the signs and symbols the universe provides… you just show up! Be honest, be the best most kind and most genuine person you are capable of being. Have fun! Be ready for the human emotions that will come out- because they will, but be grateful to this amazing source of information… like a protective big brother coming to put his arm around you & help you walk away… walk away together… from something that is not the best for you.
I’m experiencing so many things lately. Dating helps keep me grounded. It’s helping more than I can explain. I hate dating. I really do. I mean I hate the effort, the work, the ups and downs, the uncertainty… but the staying busy, the meeting new people & hearing their stories, is amazing. I am learning to hate it much less.
I have been told some of the most fascinating spiritual/metaphysical stories. People can’t make up the shit they tell me. I feel the truth of their stories via the shivers on my skin and through my inner most guidance. That part I wouldn’t trade for anything.
While I’m out creating a new social life, and continuing my metaphysical practice, and working to stay healthy and physical active, I think of Twin every day. It’s not something I am consciously doing or calling in. I don’t “try”, it just happens. I don’t dwell on it either. It’s simply there. I’m learning to comfortably incorporate our connection and at the same time go on with MY life. Our connection is not severable and that is kind of a peaceful thought. The simplest thing occurred to me last week: Love and a relationship are not the same thing. Love IS. You can’t create it, you can’t make it stop and you can’t go out and find it. It’s just there or it’s not. Love is not the same thing as a relationship. A healthy, mutual partnership…a relationship is what people call ‘work’. Love is not work. It’s a natural way of being, experienced as both a soul’s connection and a human’s emotions. A Twin/Soul Connection is LOVE of the utmost caliber. I am learning to respect and honor that fact while at the same time I am going out and living and experiencing the world and it’s people (men) again. I’ve healed to the point where I am open to what the Universe wants to deliver to me. Or to weed outI
I am direct, honest, forthright and as clear as possible with what I “want”. Now let’s see what I will “receive”.